Have our society minimized the sacredness of the marriage institution. This question ponders my mind often as I read about couples ending their marriage after numerous years. Have the meaning of marriage changed? Our educational institution changes every ten years with new innovations toward learning. However, the termination of marriages for new endeavors may lack relevance if such termination fails to yields new revelations for improved opportunities for the next generation unlike the changing educational system.
With instantaneous access to knowledge persons must understand the essence of marriage from a fundamental precedence to determine whether marriage has become less sacred and less meaningful. Precedence comes from Scriptures like Matthew 19: 6 (KJV) “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh…” This statement of two becoming one recognizes the simplicity of the normal growth process that occurs everywhere. Scientists referred to a similar transaction as mitotic cell division or the fusing of cells during fertilization. This process makes creation a living existence forming multiplies of living things. Yet, the Savior in this verse interjects that if God joins then no person can separate. This statement answers his audience rationale for dissolving marriages as reflected in our modern society. This precedence that we tend to overlook when providing rationale for dissolving ones marriage. “He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.” (Matthew 19:8 KJV). Consequently, the harden (selfishness) of man’s heart allows the dissolving of marriage. However, the precedence in Matthew 19:8 reveals that the marriage institution from the beginning contained a no separation clause.
When persons marry the marriage requires the approval of God to reflect this origin as referenced by the Savior, Jesus Christ. Likewise in an approved marriage, the couple realizes the end justifies the means. In other words, the couple in an approved marriage persists from the beginning through the duration to receive the reward. The couple focuses on the marriage outcomes as they withstand the struggles for success to materialize. Similarly, a butterfly becomes a magnificent butterfly only after metamorphosis. Each stage of metamorphosis brings different struggles to ensure that the butterfly finale brings glamor and splendor beyond imagination. Equally, a marriage finale brings heavenly glory beyond human’s comprehension. As noted in I Corinthians 2:9 (KJV) “…eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.” A couple who understands the precedence of marriage also realizes that their marriage undergoes periods of metamorphosis to convey the glory deserving of their heavenly Father.
I believe some marriages occur irrelevant to God’s will; although, the metamorphosis of God’s approved marriages occur in four periods. 1) The Honeymoon period – the romance seems to never end. 2) The Awareness period – the couple awakes with realization of a lifelong commitment. 3) Procreation period – the couple implements the child rearing process with a survivalist mentality. Finally, 4) Companionship period – here the couples understand the need of removing selfish intentions with a caring mentality for others. Yet, each period comes with struggles from finances to erotic shortfalls that a couple overcomes to receive the ultimate reward. Remember, the eye hath not seem the things…that the Father prepared for them that love Him. Since Elohim (the plural form for the God head) created humans in their image and after their likeness, their marriages reflect the same harmony as the harmony demonstrated in heaven. Couples can easily reflect this LOVE demonstrated by the Elohim as follows: Solidify the oneness of two with a unified attitude to endure the struggles leading to a consecrated marriage of inviolability.